It’s always hard to plan for own death. It’s downright terrifying when you write for yourself an obituary. Death planning comes with quite a few thought-provoking challenges. How do you want to be remembered? What do you want to accomplish? These are crucial questions that drive your decisions. But they can do extra.
They can help you decide if the legacy you’re creating is what you want to leave behind. Unlike writing an obituary for a loved one, writing your obituary for own self gives you the chance to look at your life. It lets you get the opportunity of sharing your tale. You’ll have peace of mind by having your say. And as well you can help your friends and family by starting this difficult task for them.
It is a good idea to get some inspiration as you begin. To facilitate this, you should consider doing some primary research either by reading some published newspaper obituaries or browsing online. Today, lengthy obituaries and smaller announcements are still standard. You can find them in your local newspaper, prominent publications, and even on social media.
Don’t be afraid, you don’t have to go back to English lessons. But knowledge about the basic format of these announcements is a good idea. An obituary informs people about the occurrence of death, and details about the funeral or memorial service, and some may include a brief of the deceased’s life and the legacy they leave behind.
Commencing: Start with stating the full name and leave space to mention the date of death. Also, leave space for mentioning the cremation location and space for mentioning the details of post-cremation or funeral ceremonies. Do not be bothered too much about the particulars since you don’t know or have them yet.
Synopsis: Next, share a brief of your life. Start from birth and make sure to include only vital facts. Make a note of all those most important life experiences that have touched you differently, and you want your loved ones to be remembered or know them once you leave this world.
Loved Ones: List your loved ones- spouse, children, parents, siblings, friends, or relatives (living or dead). Why? Because Obituaries help readers determine if they have a personal connection to the deceased.
Funeral details: As aforementioned leave space for mentioning the cremation ground or funeral home. If you want a certain type of cremation or funeral process to be performed, include it in this section. Sharing contact information for the person who will oversee your cremation or funeral is good practice (this can be altered based on the situation come may)
Legacy: Finally, list any particulars you’d like done to honour your memory. For example, you might request a donation to your charity of choice. Or, arrange eatables for the underprivileged etc.
Now it’s time to start writing. This is the hardest part how do you sum up a lifetime of memories and connections? Keep in mind that most obituaries are short, they’re typically between 200-500 words. The exception can be only for some significant publications, but not the rule.
When writing the first draft, write as much as you need. This is a work in progress and helps later in shortlisting and scrutinizing important facts:
If you’re still not sure what to write, then ask your friends and family to help doing so. They probably know you better than you know yourself! Their fond memories of you and what they cherish about you will drive you to begin writing.
Your obituary won’t be ideal right away. This is meant to evolve and change. Your life has never been a one-dimensional page. Therefore, your obituary also keeps evolving and develops with you.
Practice revising your obituary as you continue to encounter new things. Also, whilst you revise your obituary, you might recognize that you have a different idea of the legacy you want to leave behind. If that’s the case, imagine your new world of prospects.
There’s no ideal way out when it comes to writing your obituary. You simply have to write the words that mean something to you. From there, you can always make alterations. Don’t be afraid to modify.
Finally, share your obituary draft with your loved ones. Share it with reliable relatives, and make sure they know your last wishes. Don’t leave your obituary trapped in a diary or saved somewhere confidentially on your computer or other devices.
There are a few ways you can share your obituary with loved ones. Ideally, you can email them. Also, you may always keep the latest print of your last draft in a place that is easily accessible to only your reliable person. Plus, you must make sure your family has access to your legal decisions and obituary documents, too.